It is stuck on wake up my friend onboarding will not hatch What now

That screen depends on the Gateway being reachable and authenticated. The TUI also sends “Wake up, my friend!” automatically on first hatch. If you see that line with no reply and tokens stay at 0, the agent never ran.
Restart the Gateway:
openclaw gateway restart
Check status + auth:
openclaw status
openclaw models status
openclaw logs --follow
If it still hangs, run:
openclaw doctor
If the Gateway is remote, ensure the tunnel/Tailscale connection is up and that the UI is pointed at the right Gateway. See Remote access.